A Different Family Experience....

When I was referring about public display of affection to an audience in a debate forum, I shared my experience with them and would quote the same for you all....In Assam, Iwas living with a middle aged doctor couple, who had three children... first 2 daughters and the last one son. first daughter was studying in kolkata, second one in Delhi and the son was in Guwahati, with them....

During one of the vacations, all the children came home and were introduced to me...

We all were having lunch together at home and then the girls' favourite dish was prepared by the servant and served. In the middle of the lunch, an important phone call came and the madam doctor excused herself for sometime....

By the time she came back, the special dish was over as the girls' cherished it well as they were back home after lousy, monotonous hostel food.....

I was taken aback at the response of this respected lady, who screamed at the children for not keeping it for her......I am not able to explain my condition as it was unimaginable shock for me, comparing the way I was brought up......The children stood up with heads down and told sorry to her....

They boast themselves of the quality of convent education they had received for themselves and for their children, the best fashionable clothes, accent and a lot of public display of affection..... Whenever they see the children, you hug them, kiss them and what not..Many a times it was little difficult for me to digest as the girls were 19 & 16 years old respectively and the boy was 14 yers old and were looking much more matured than their respective ages....

I was wondering who were they trying to convince that they have lots of love for their children...or who are they afraid so that they want to establish an emotional bond with their children and bargain on the same later on....?

Yes, I too agree that the love should be expressed......but that should not be to cover up your insecurity nor to disguise the lack of it.....

You show your love and affection in such a way that they understand the depth of it, through your action, your sacrifice and at times by the absence of your action.....!!! Through your action, they should realize the value of sacrifice in love.....then definitely they will sacrifice for their loved ones....!!!!

Its really noble

It requires lot of courage & maturity to love others unconditionally....This is a culture, which needs to be inculcated and passed through the generations.....

Whenever, any special food article was brought by my dad during my childhood, my mother used to portion it and give it to each one of us and many a times, being the youngest among them, I used to ask for more after eating my share....and she brings and gives me more...then it is the turn of my bro....and sister...each one of us, she will give.....

Of late, I realized that she's managing to give us again from her portion and most of the times she hardly gets anything....I wondered how she was able to give it to us when rightfully it is her's.....At last one day, when I was in my inter, I asked her this question....Then she told me she finds it happy if she sees her children enjoy it rather than tasting it herself....still I could not realize the fact....but I understood, she's doing a sacrifice by giving off her portion to her children.....

Now, when I sit with my children and eat, me & my wife are more than happy to give away things for them and my mother used to pass a meaningful smile from her seat...!!! Hence, for me love is sacrifice and love is the joy of the loved ones....!!!! So this is a culture to be inculcated and passed on.......!! I would like to share one more story of a family whom I have lived with, in Assam as an other extreme example later......

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