When I was referring about public display of affection to an audience in a debate forum, I shared my experience with them and would quote the same for you all....In Assam, Iwas living with a middle aged doctor couple, who had three children... first 2 daughters and the last one son. first daughter was studying in kolkata, second one in Delhi and the son was in Guwahati, with them....
During one of the vacations, all the children came home and were introduced to me...
We all were having lunch together at home and then the girls' favourite dish was prepared by the servant and served. In the middle of the lunch, an important phone call came and the madam doctor excused herself for sometime....
By the time she came back, the special dish was over as the girls' cherished it well as they were back home after lousy, monotonous hostel food.....
I was taken aback at the response of this respected lady, who screamed at the children for not keeping it for her......I am not able to explain my condition as it was unimaginable shock for me, comparing the way I was brought up......The children stood up with heads down and told sorry to her....
They boast themselves of the quality of convent education they had received for themselves and for their children, the best fashionable clothes, accent and a lot of public display of affection..... Whenever they see the children, you hug them, kiss them and what not..Many a times it was little difficult for me to digest as the girls were 19 & 16 years old respectively and the boy was 14 yers old and were looking much more matured than their respective ages....
During one of the vacations, all the children came home and were introduced to me...
We all were having lunch together at home and then the girls' favourite dish was prepared by the servant and served. In the middle of the lunch, an important phone call came and the madam doctor excused herself for sometime....
By the time she came back, the special dish was over as the girls' cherished it well as they were back home after lousy, monotonous hostel food.....
I was taken aback at the response of this respected lady, who screamed at the children for not keeping it for her......I am not able to explain my condition as it was unimaginable shock for me, comparing the way I was brought up......The children stood up with heads down and told sorry to her....
They boast themselves of the quality of convent education they had received for themselves and for their children, the best fashionable clothes, accent and a lot of public display of affection..... Whenever they see the children, you hug them, kiss them and what not..Many a times it was little difficult for me to digest as the girls were 19 & 16 years old respectively and the boy was 14 yers old and were looking much more matured than their respective ages....
I was wondering who were they trying to convince that they have lots of love for their children...or who are they afraid so that they want to establish an emotional bond with their children and bargain on the same later on....?
Yes, I too agree that the love should be expressed......but that should not be to cover up your insecurity nor to disguise the lack of it.....
You show your love and affection in such a way that they understand the depth of it, through your action, your sacrifice and at times by the absence of your action.....!!! Through your action, they should realize the value of sacrifice in love.....then definitely they will sacrifice for their loved ones....!!!!
Yes, I too agree that the love should be expressed......but that should not be to cover up your insecurity nor to disguise the lack of it.....
You show your love and affection in such a way that they understand the depth of it, through your action, your sacrifice and at times by the absence of your action.....!!! Through your action, they should realize the value of sacrifice in love.....then definitely they will sacrifice for their loved ones....!!!!
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Comppletely agree with your views. I am a victim of the circumstances and hence have devised a mechanism to keep my sanity in this maddening world ..i have segmented my levels of 'friendship' in such a manner..
A lot which needs to be kep in touch with for professional gains and to avoid negative hits
Another lot in the family and community circles who need to be kept in touch with for social acceptance and sustenance..this lot is increasingly decreasing as I amnow moving into a phase mentally where meaningful relationships are more important than mere facades..
The third lot which i focus, invest time and effort in, nurture and vale is what i call the inner circle.This is totally based on invidual values and acceptance of the same in a person, whether good or bad, right or wrong. I accept them as they are and would do anything required to take the relationship to the next level consitently. This lot is purely a different lot who have no barriers & boundaries and with whom i am the most comfortable with. Some of my friends from the previous lots have moved into this lot over time and more will follow.
amen..
VK
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